25 Questions

I found this list of questions listed on a support site for Babylost Moms....although I am not posting my responses to the group. I commit to answer one question a day, so I can answer it completely and not rushed. So here they are....


1. Your baby name and birthday and date of death
2. What caused your baby to pass away?
3. Where there any anticipated complications?
4. How long has it been since you have lost your baby?
5. Do you have any other children? If so how did you tell them, and did you have any complications?
6. Did you/do you have good support from your family and friends? Do you wish anyone would have reacted differently in anyway?
7. Have you gone through the different stages of grief? ( anger, denial, depression, bargaining, acceptance)
8. Where do you think babies go when they die?
9. Why do you think you where given this experience?
10. How do you feel when you hear or see friends and family having health pregnancies, babies and children?
11. Did you blame anyone for the loss of your baby?
12. If you knew your baby was going to die, did you make any special plans for them?
13. Has your signification other been supportive? How do you think they are dealing with their grief?
14. Often couples find if difficult to continue a relationship after the loss of a baby. Are you and your significant other still together? If so, how do you think you are making it work? If not, do you feel like your loss had an influence on your break-up?
15. How do you respond with someone asks you if you have any children?
16. When talking to new people, do you feel comfortable telling them about your baby, or do you avoid the subject? Why?
17. Describe how you felt at your baby's service.
18. Describe your baby's personality. If you baby was born asleep what kind of personality did they seem to have in the womb?
19. Is there a memory you have with your baby you cherish the most?
20. At point did you feel guilty about your baby's death? If so, why?
21. What did you learn from the time you had with your baby?
22. After your baby's death, do you do any special when you are thinking about them?
23. How long did you decide to keep the baby's nursery intact, and why?
24. How often do you visit your baby's grave/urn, or talk to your baby? Do you ever feel guilty for not spending enough time with them?
25. Is there any advice you would like to pass on to someone who has just lost their baby?